How to build up a child’s confidence?
We want to see our children happy. And the magic is that regardless of a person’s talents, abilities, prosperity or status we can all be happy if we have CONFIDENCE. The confidence to life our own life, to do the things that we love, to stand up for our beliefs and values, to love and respect ourselves and others. How can we make sure that our children grow up with the light of confidence in their eyes? Here is some advice from MAGIC CASTLE International School, Tsvetnoi teachers:
Ms Veronika (USA)
The main thing I do to instill confidence in my students is to give them the necessary life skills to know how to handle situations and problems. It’s especially difficult for children at this age to handle emotions as they are overwhelmed by the unfamiliar feelings. I walk my children through coming up with solutions to problems themselves versus reprimanding them for reactions that may seem irrational in an adult’s eyes and tell them “okay, you have a problem, let’s think what we can do to fix this problem.” I found that with time it has helped my students to be able to think ahead and rationalize their feelings. My students know what to do when someone is doing something they don’t like, and they know what to do when they want something but can’t get their way, at least most of the time.
Ms Claudia Manning (Jamaica)
Self-confidence comes from a sense of competence. A confident child needs a positive and realistic perception of his or her abilities. This arises out of achievements, great and small. Your encouraging words can help develop this confidence, especially when you refer to your child’s specific efforts or abilities.
- Love children
- Give praise where praise is due.
- Help children set realistic goals.
- Model self-love and positive self-talk.
- Teach resilience. No one succeeds at everything all the time. This is very important for each and every child.
- Instill independence and adventure.
- Encourage sports or other physical activities.
- Support their pursuit of a passion.
- Set rules and be consistent.
- Coach relationship skills.
It’s all about the physiology of the child which plays a very important role in the child’s confidence.
This is a fine balance of independence and clear rules, encouragement and praise. Take it step by step and make your child stronger!